Last Sunday I shared some pretty exciting news… WE’RE ENGAGED! I wasn’t expecting to make an engagement announcement this soon after we bought our first house together, but according to Felix it was ‘just the right time’. As promised over on my Instagram feed, I thought it only fair to share the story of just how it happened. It was super simple, but also very sweet and was absolutely the perfect way to do it.
On a Saturday afternoon a few weeks ago (the one that was in the middle of that humid heatwave that made us all think we were actually living in a tropical rainforest rather than the usually dreary UK!), Felix made the sensible suggestion that we got up very early the next day to take the dog on a country walk before being outside got too hot for her. He then suggested maybe we even tried to catch the sunrise as just something nice to do – and so we could say we achieved something that day, even if when we got home it got too hot to move around and we then just lay around in the shade.
I should probably interject the story here with why this didn’t make me particularly suspicious: getting married is a topic Felix and I have discussed many times, and every time he’s always said ‘I’m going to do it when you least expect it’. If you know Felix, you’ll know this is pretty indicative of his overall character; he’s always pretty stubborn about not doing things that are expected and the more you ask him to do something, the less likely he is to actually do it! So at this point in our relationship, I’ve actually had a suspicion that he might propose quite a lot of times. To the point where if I ever said to myself on an outing ‘hmm, maybe it might happen this time’, I just then knew that it wouldn’t, because I was expecting it… Does that even make sense? Basically, it got to the point that any time something was vaguely romantic, I knew it wasn’t going to happen. Which turns out was his plan all along, to make me so convinced it wasn’t going to happen so that he could actually surprise me! SO SNEAKY.
Anyway, on a cloudy Sunday morning at 5am our alarm went off, and I immediately regretted agreeing to getting up so early. Felix gently asked if I still wanted to go for the walk, and after about 15 minutes of hesitation, I dragged myself up, threw on some leggings and my walking boots, and we headed out.
By 5.30 we were walking across the fields near our house, stopping only for me to take a few short videos (I was using the walk as an excuse to test out the new Reels feature on Instagram, which is so lucky as we now have a little reminder of the walk we can rewatch!) and at a stream for the dog to cool off. We walked for about 20 minutes, with Felix determinedly leading us to a bench on the side of a little hill overlooking the valley.
Sitting down we realised the clouds weren’t going to clear, and even if they had we’d probably missed the sunrise anyway, but we both agreed it was just nice to be the only ones around and got chatting about random things whilst Astrid rolled around in the grass and ran circles around us.
Seemingly absent-mindedly, Felix pointed out the ring I was wearing on the ring finger of my left hand, asking why I wore it on that finger; I only own two rings, and they’re both the same size, so I wear one on each ring finger. Explaining that to him, I began fiddling with it and took it off to show him, at which point he took it off me and just began fiddling with it himself. He actually does this quite a lot with my jewellery, so it didn’t arouse any suspicion from me.
We then just continued chatting about what we were going to do for the rest of the day for a little while. After about 15 minutes I started noticing the dog was getting a bit restless, and also knowing that Felix hates sitting still for too long in the middle of a walk I eventually asked for the ring back before we got moving. He replied ‘would you like a different ring for that finger?‘, at which point I gasped (and may have told him to ‘fuck off‘…!!). He then produced the ring and asked if I would marry him. Of course I immediately said yes, and following a little cry (which attracted some frantic attention from the dog, who obviously did not understand the happy tears!), the ring was placed on the appropriate finger.
And that was it, we were engaged! Following a slow walk home, we just sat together, ate breakfast and soaked in the feeling of elation for a while, not quite ready to share it with anyone else yet. Eventually we began calling our families (most of whom didn’t pick up the phone!) and close friends to tell them the good news, and that was that.
I’m so glad Felix went for an understated proposal – although he’s not really a showy guy anyway, so even if we weren’t in the middle of a pandemic, I don’t think it would have happened any other way. I now know he considered asking me when we were on holiday, but it’s actually so lovely knowing we can visit the proposal spot any time we like as it’s so close to our house.
I also would never have bargained for him choosing the ring by himself. As I’m pretty picky when it comes to most things, I’ve always said for him to just pick a nice cheapo ring if he decided to ask me, and that we’d then go and pick ‘the proper one’ together. After seeking some advice from some of my friends (Laura and Hollie, you’re also very sneaky!), he decided to just go for it with the ring and choose it himself, making sure to get one with a returns policy just in case.
As it turned out, the one he chose was beautiful and although not what I would have immediately picked, I love it! It also arrived in the post earlier in the week, meaning I ACTUALLY SIGNED FOR THE DELIVERY when Felix was at work, and he’s so lucky the packaging was so nondescript that I believed him when he told me it was an electrical part. He’s an engineer, and although it’s very cool I don’t really understand it and tend to zone out when he talks about it as I really can’t keep up! Again, so sneaky.
So that’s our proposal story, and now the wedding planning officially begins! I won’t lie, the Pinterest board has been several years in the making (even before I met Felix… I’m that extra, I’m afraid!), but I really didn’t expect to be dusting it off so soon after the house move.
I’m sure there will be plenty of wedding-related content for me to share over the next however-long until the big day arrives – we haven’t set a date yet so hopefully it will be long enough to bring you all along for the journey, but not so long that you’ll all be sick of me talking about weddings by the time it actually happens. I’m just so excited to share it with you all, and hopefully steal all the tips and tricks from those of you who have already tied the knot. Wedding season on the blog has officially begun, pals – This Girl Is… getting married!